Thread: How do I keep my marriage strong and keep friends at the same time?

Please give me advice on keeping my husband happy while I like to be with my friends alot. He does not like to go out much and likes to stay in with me and our son. He is a homebody. I feel guilty everytime I want to go out and do something and sometimes he gets upset. What to do?

keep it balance and also your friends have to understand that your married if they don't then there not your friends,

Maybe he is getting upset because you are neglecting your son.

just do it, it's that simple. if u are spending 4-5 nights with your husband, just do 1 or 2 with th girls. if u feel guilty, just ignore it.

Sit down with him and work out a compromise. A compromise means it won't be perfect for either one of you. But I think there's plenty of room where you can go out as much as you need, and he gets you at home as much as he needs. Note that I said, "need" not "want". Compromise means neither one of you always gets what you want, but that's how you make a marriage work.

That is easy....... Tell him you want to go out. You have
no intention of cheating, but you want to get out for a while.

This is something you were probably aware of when you got married. If your husband did not go out a lot before you got married, you should not expect a change. If he did go out, ask your self, was it he went out to be with you or because he liked being "out". Answer honestly and you will have your answer. Remember, you have a family now, especially a child which gets your attention. You put yourself second when you brought that child into the world.

Your first priority should be family and after wards friends.

He needs to accept you wanting to go out with your friends, whether he wants to join you or not. The key to any successful relationship is maintaining individuality within the marriage as well.

Set 1 night a week, every 2 weeks, month, or something where you go out with friends. Also consider having friends over on a regular basis.

I prefer to be home with my daughter and fiance, but we have BBQs every 1-2 weekends with some other friend-couples. It is a blast, we are enjoying ourselves and having communication with others while together.

I am allowed to go out with the girls every so often and him with the guys.

I don't know how you can get him to accept it but I believe it helps keep the relationship healthy and interesting when you also have things to talk about!!! Haha!!!

Good Luck...

Have the girls over to your house sometimes. If you're only going out 2x a week but are home with him 5x a week, then he should shut it. Yes, there comes a certain point where it's too much, but usually when the spouse is upset, it's because they are a "quality time" lover and are overreacting. Keep that in mind. Your husband needs you to spend time with him to feel loved. But if you are asking him to go out with you and he refuses, then he can hardly blame you.