Thread: How do I get my boyfriend to be more responsible and mature?

He is going to college this year and I am in grade 12. Sometimes I feel like I am babysitting. Also, the people he hangs out with are people who aren't responsible. Lately he has been partying and getting extremely drunk, which I don't approve of at all, I believe in drinking responsibly, not going overboard.

You can't really force someone to act more responsibly. The only thing you can do is tell him you don't like his behavior and you don't want to be around him when he's drunk.

you can't exactly tell him that

answer my question?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110825084151AAGJrZq

Good luck with that.

haha, i know you may thumbs down me, and think badly of this, but remember my words...
something bad will happen. either he will cheat, you will resent his behavior and resort to cheating, or, he will change for a bit if you ask him, then start to resent you for changing him.
i was in that exact situation where i tried to control my partner at your age, and basically its all downhill from there, no solving it, especially since you're both experiencing new stages in your life

i would suggest you break up and find a new partner - or remain single for a while
but since its easier said then done, just remember my words when you do break up.
save yourself the heartache babe.

talk to him sincerely and seriously.tell him that you love him,but are tired of babysitting him.of course you'll take care of him as a GF but he needs to be responsible too.tell him he needs to be more mature and needs to understand you.even you need someone's shoulder to rest your head on and cry out your heart,share your worries and problems,but you dont feel that way(the feeling that you can share and talk about things with him) for him because of his immaturity.

to inculcate responsible nature or maturity,try asking him to join a personality development class,dancing or music or a part time job.things like these induce responsibility and enhance one's personality.though maturity will come with age,you can ask him to be mature and make him to be a matured person.

simple words,talk to him about it.tell him that you cant take his irresponsible nature anymore and that you will continue only if he promises to be mature.maybe the fear of loosing you will work as an incentive for him,and who knows,he may put in honest attempts.